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Episode 11: Advantages of Optimism

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Episode 11: Advantages of Optimism

Introduction

I’m a reasonably optimistic individual. I get feedback about my sunny disposition typically. Individuals additionally ask me how I keep completely satisfied regardless of issues happening in life. On one hand, I feel that some degree of optimism is innate and pure.  I additionally assume that lots of it may be educated. I’m not optimistic on a regular basis. I’m not constructive on a regular basis. I do put quite a bit of focus and power in my life on making an attempt to be optimistic, as a result of there are such a lot of benefits of optimism!

I need to be an individual who routinely sees the great in my life. I need to be an individual that regardless of any troubles or trials or obstacles or sudden sicknesses or accidents, I need to be the one that sees the great and sees the lesson and strikes past it into having fun with the issues that I can management about my life.

Phase: Life These days

We Acquired Chickens!

We had added for chickens to our household and I’m utterly in love with them!!  They’re about 16 or 18 weeks previous at this level. They don’t seem to be full measurement. They’re not as plump and spherical as common hens, however they seem like chickens. They undoubtedly don’t appear to be chicks.  Inside the metropolis limits of Richmond, VA the place we stay, as much as 4 hens are allowed per hen allow. So, we obtained 4! Let me introduce you:

Mozzarella is all white, she is Dave and my hen. Milo’s hen is white with black speckles. She’s actually fairly. He named her Feathers. Eliot’s hen is black with little white stripes in her feathers. Her identify is Blackberry. The most important, mom hen is Plum’s hen. She’s black with actually fairly golden stripes. Her identify is Goldie and we name her Goldie Han as type of a riff on Goldie Hawn.

We’re making an attempt to get them to love us by feeding them tons of treats and raspberries and grapes and mealworms and all types of enjoyable issues and I can’t wait to share some tales about my chickens with you as time goes ahead proper now I simply needed to introduce you to them so you understand all about them.

Recent Eggs Signal and Power Administration

One other enjoyable factor that simply barely occurred. It’s midnight now. I’m sitting in my studio workplace, the Reside Free Artistic headquarters.  I simply received again from a DIY workshop at AR workshops. It’s one of these paint-your-own-sign workshops. One of the choices was to color an indication for “fresh eggs”, which I assumed was good as a result of of our yard chickens, so I painted this actually enjoyable signal that claims “Organic Fresh Eggs, Anderson Farms.”

I used to be making an attempt to determine earlier than I went to the workshop whether or not or not I used to be going to document this episode later or if I used to be going to go house and go to mattress after which report it a while tomorrow. As I used to be leaving round 11 pm, I noticed that I had been completely reenergized by the DIY workshop!

I do know this about myself, nevertheless it was such a poignant reminder that one of the issues that builds my power (referring to episode two the place I speak about managing your power as an alternative of your time)  is to make issues. Despite the fact that it was late at night time. I obtained this burst of power and it made me so joyful and so excited to return sit and report this episode or optimism with you. So it was a superb reminder of how our power actually may be renewable and as we do the issues that we love, we will cost ourselves up for with the ability to accomplish much more in our lives.

About Optimism

As I speak via the rules that I need to share of the benefits of being optimistic, I would like you to keep in mind that I’m on this journey with you. I’m making an attempt to be extra optimistic and I feel that it’s one thing that we will study.

Should you’re naturally the social gathering pooper, for those who’re naturally a downer, there’s hope for you!! You don’t should wallow in that on a regular basis. You possibly can come to the sunshine aspect, the brilliant aspect, the rose coloured glasses aspect.

The aim of this podcast is to persuade you that you simply need to be on the brilliant aspect to persuade you that there are benefits to on the lookout for the great. I feel typically people who find themselves fast to level out all the issues with this example assume that they’re doing themselves a service by having their eyes extensive open to all of the issues that would probably go improper.

I want to counter that with some benefits to on the lookout for the great in any state of affairs that you simply may see. So let’s speak about optimism.

What’s optimism?

One definition of optimism that I actually like is: “hopefulness and confidence about the future or the successful outcome of something”. I really like the thought of picturing optimism as hope for the longer term confidence that issues might be profitable. In case you keep in mind again in episode one, I speak about how failure is simply issues turning out in a different way than we anticipated, that there actually is not any success and failure. Simply what we select to consider the experiences in our lives.

“If you’re optimistic, you can have hope and confidence that any situation could have a successful outcome because you can adjust your thinking to decide that whatever happens is the right thing for you.”

Now, once I speak about optimism, I’m not speaking about blindly assuming that no mistaken goes to occur in your life or that you simply’re immune from any of your troubles. You may be optimistic to a fault when you’re not recognizing actual indicators, warning indicators, or harmful in your life. Nevertheless, once I really feel optimistic, what it means for me is that it doesn’t actually matter what the difficulty that I’m experiencing is. I consider that I can get by way of it. It additionally means for me that typically I can see and anticipate the unfavourable prospects and that permits me to already be ready forward of time to work them out in order that I can get forward of the difficulty that I already know that issues are going to go improper and I’m ready mentally to be okay with that after which I can take all of it in stride.

Optimism in Our Renovation

A serious instance of that is with our fixer higher. In January of this yr, we purchased a small actually cute home that wanted a bit of bit of love. We knew moving into that this was going to be an enormous, large challenge. I used to be on the lookout for a fixer higher. I didn’t simply encounter it and assume, “oh well we wanted to move in ready house, but this one will be fine, we’ll just update it”. I used to be particularly in search of a home that had not been renovated in order that we might principally intestine it and remake it the best way that we needed it.

Now if you’re working with an previous home and also you’re speaking about gutting it and rebuilding principally from scratch, it’s a must to know that there’s going to be lots of points. From the surface and from HGTV, a fixer higher could be very romantic and thrilling. It’s romantic and thrilling. It has additionally a loopy, loopy, sudden experience with tons of twists and turns and virtually each single day for six months one thing went mistaken that I didn’t anticipate.

The Subfloor Disappeared

Let me simply define a number of of the problems that we discovered inside a pair days of gutting the home. We had individuals in to speak concerning the flooring. We had the price range all set. The ground guys referred to as me a pair hours into the tear out and stated the sub flooring had disappeared within the kitchen. There had been an addition that we didn’t find out about. Some time limit on this, our home was inbuilt 1948, so there’s quite a bit of years there when issues might have been added onto or modified or renovated that we didn’t find out about.

Sooner or later somebody had added a number of ft onto the kitchen and since they have been placing in linoleum flooring, they didn’t hassle placing a real subfloor down. There was simply plywood and the inspiration. It added a pair thousand dollars to the undertaking. That is like on day three, it added a few third of the fee of the flooring on prime of the finances for the flooring! That was undoubtedly not anticipated, however I stated, “okay, let’s do it. We can adjust. We can make this work. It’s going to be great.”

The Pipe Broke

A number of days later I got here in and there was water spraying out of a pipe everywhere in the gutted kitchen. We had taken out all the things, taken out a wall. All the cupboards have been gone. They have been a couple of pipes from the place the kitchen sink had been that have been sticking as much as the ground. And our electrician who’s making an attempt to rewire the entire kitchen had by accident hit one of the pipes and it broke and he had run out again to show off the water provide and there was simply water spraying all of that home.

It wasn’t an enormous deal, nevertheless it was just a little bit scary and I simply thought, “okay, well here we go. At least it’s all gutted and we can just clean it all up.”

The Sink Was Misplaced

When our cupboards got here, there have been three full items lacking, together with the farmhouse sink. We did the cupboards from Ikea.

By the best way, in case you have any questions on our renovation, go to the FIXER UPPER class, and also you’ll have the ability to learn all about this and see all the photographs. It’s actually enjoyable.

However the farmhouse sink was an enormous deal within the kitchen. It was type of a middle level and I referred to as Ikea to see if that they had a unique one in case that they weren’t capable of finding this one of the warehouse they usually stated that that they had discontinued it. We had measured and created the whole kitchen design round this particular sink. The Ikea kitchen sink is about $400 and another sort of sink that I acquired that was comparable measurement would have been a $1000, not to mention that the entire countertop measurement. It will have thrown off each single factor for that sink to truly have disappeared. I didn’t freak out just a bit bit in my head, however a pair of days later they discovered it in order that was superb.

How Optimism Helped

Sustaining some degree of optimism in every of these conditions didn’t shield me from the issues in any respect. What it did was assist me hold my give attention to what I might management and search for all of the options. I additionally was capable of acknowledge alternatives for fixing issues that I won’t have seen if I had been so targeted on being upset about the issue.

In the event you comply with me on Instagram, my instagram is @livefreemiranda. You’ll know that after we acquired by means of with the key half of the renovation. We lastly moved in and I arrange one room actually superbly. The lounge.

I’m not joking. Inside two weeks of shifting in, the lounge ceiling actually got here crashing down as Dave and I sat there collectively after placing the youngsters to mattress. There had been a crack within the ceiling, some previous water injury. It was like the right storm that introduced your complete front room ceiling crashing down in entrance of us and we might simply chuckle. We might snort and I’ll inform you that with the ability to giggle once you’re sealing is actually or figuratively falling down in your life feels so much higher than the choice, which is to cry.

“Being able to laugh when you’re ceiling is literally or figuratively falling down in your life feels a lot better than the alternative, which is to cry.”

Winston Churchill has a well-known quote that claims, “A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity, and the optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.”

I’ve discovered that to be completely true in my life.

“When I am focused on the positive, on finding solutions, and on recognizing the good, I’m able to see the opportunity in every difficulty that comes along.”

5 Advantages Of Optimism In Your On a regular basis Life

1. Optimism helps us see failure or change as alternatives for a brand new begin.

In episode one, I talked rather a lot about failure being issues understanding than we anticipated. Once we’re optimistic, we’re capable of regulate our concept or our expectations to seek out the profit of no matter truly occurs. We get to decide on to like the experiences that we’ve, even when they’re totally different than we thought that they might be.

“The advantage of optimism in failure is feeling empowered and excited rather than defeated.”

I additionally love this particular precept because it pertains to change. Our life has undergone tons of sudden change. I’m assuming that yours has to. I feel everybody’s life has some sudden change. Ours has most frequently been sudden strikes, many, many strikes. I don’t even know. I feel we’re on like 13 or 14 in our 12 years of marriage.

Shifting To Virginia

I keep in mind once we determined to maneuver away from Austin, which was a metropolis the place we had thought we might keep ceaselessly. We constructed our residence. We constructed our life with the concept that’s the place we have been going to be. I planted fruit timber and imagined myself harvesting figs and peaches in years to return. Then we received this sudden supply for a job right here in Virginia.

We knew that it was proper to make this variation, that our life can be good in several methods than we even knew.  I keep in mind my boys asking me what is going to life be like in Richmond? And my reply was all the time: “Even better than it is here. Our will be better than it is right now.”

I didn’t know a single factor about what our life in Virginia would seem like. I knew that we have been shifting right into a small home, that we have been leaving all of our pals. We have been going to a spot the place there are not any cactus and winter is an actual factor, and I used to be nonetheless dedicated to the concept I get to decide on how I really feel and I need to really feel pleased so we might, it doesn’t matter what. We had no concept what this life would seem like and I knew that it might be even higher than something that we had ever skilled.

2. Optimism opens us as much as prospects.

I really like this one and I really feel prefer it applies commonly in my life on this sort of intangible method, so I’m going to do my greatest to elucidate this concept.

Years in the past I learn this research concerning the science of luck and it made a lot sense to me as a result of I’m a really fortunate individual. The science talked about how individuals who name themselves fortunate truly behave in another way than individuals who don’t. So, the science of luck is a science of optimism. An Article in fashionable science says that luck is definitely your personal constructive angle that retains you open to new alternatives or perceiving patterns in random acts of probability.

One instance that basically sunk into me as I used to be studying extra about this concept of the science behind luck was this newspaper check. There’s a group of those that was gathered collectively for the analysis. All of them crammed out a survey about whether or not or not they felt that they have been fortunate. They ranked it on a scale. I don’t keep in mind all of the small print, however I keep in mind was that after that they had ranked how fortunate they thought they have been. They have been all given the identical directions to enter this room, decide up a newspaper from the desk, learn via the newspaper, in search of a selected set of phrases or one thing.

That they had this process they have been supposed to finish after which after they discovered all of the phrases that they might go flip the paper in and be achieved. They have been going to spend about an hour on this area. So the individuals went into the room they usually picked up the paper they usually began studying by way of on the lookout for no matter they have been alleged to search for. The small print are a bit of fuzzy, however you’re going to get the purpose throughout as a result of on the second or third web page of the paper, there was an enormous full web page advert that stated “If you are reading this, turn your paper in early and collect $200”. One thing like that.

Apparently sufficient, the individuals who noticed that and skim it and turned their paper in early have been the identical individuals who had marked themselves as being fortunate. The individuals who had self-identified as unfortunate have been those who have been so targeted on discovering all of the precise issues they have been supposed to seek out for the duty that that they had been given, that they completely missed this big full web page alternative to complete the check early and earn $200.

These issues are simply reinforcing the thought for the individuals who have been fortunate that they’re fortunate. And for the individuals who have been unfortunate that they have been unfortunate as a result of they missed it!

“The people who recognized and took advantage of the opportunity believed they were lucky and so they opened themselves to the idea that there might be something there that they weren’t expecting. And when you’re open to something that you’re not expecting, you can find a lot of luck.”

I Am Very Fortunate

I discussed that I’m very fortunate. I’ve buddies that say issues like, “of course you did.” Once I inform them that I discovered my leather-based Chesterfield couch for a steal of a deal on craigslist, or that I need to contest at a convention a pair of years in the past that awarded me to free airline tickets to Hawaii.

I additionally had a streak a pair of years in the past when instagram giveaways have been well-liked. Do you keep in mind a number of years in the past how there have been giveaways on a regular basis? I feel I would like about 10 giveaways in six months. I had packages displaying up on my doorstep on a regular basis. My very favourite leather-based and canvas weekender bag that I exploit on a regular basis once I journey got here from a free giveaway.  A signed cookbook that I really like got here from a giveaway. I even received a free mattress!

In all of these conditions. The sample is analogous. I acknowledged a chance and was hopeful sufficient to consider that I might win. I believed sufficient to truly enroll, tag a number of pals or look on craigslist each single week till the factor that I needed appeared.

An necessary observe with these issues particularly is that there was no method for me to lose. I didn’t pay for entries or gamble to discover a sofa on craigslist. My solely investments the place my hope and slightly bit of time, however these issues paid off.

“You lose 100% of the contests that you don’t enter. You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take. The advantage of optimism is the courage to simply try.”

three. Optimism improves your bodily and psychological well being.

There are lots of and a whole lot of research courting again to the fifties about the advantages of optimism on general well being. It’s like a laundry record of issues. Each single factor that would go mistaken together with your physique may be improved by being constructive.It sounds insane, nevertheless it’s true!!

Issues like a stronger immune system, decrease stress, slower persistent illness development, higher outcomes for illness and damage administration. These are all physiological issues that may be improved by having a extra constructive outlook. A method the optimism can enhance your well being is by serving to you are feeling in management of your wellbeing, regardless of the sickness that you’ve. So that you see and acknowledge alternatives for remedy. You’re taking care of your self, you interact in drawback fixing once you’re confronted with difficulties.

I do know in my life I’m extra more likely to train as a result of I do know that it makes a distinction. It may be actually discouraging to anticipate instant outcomes with regards to change for a more healthy way of life or taking your treatment or sickness prevention, however optimism can provide the hope and empowerment that each one the issues that you simply’re doing, these small issues that you simply do each single day make a distinction over the long term. These small wholesome decisions contribute to your general physiological and psychological well being in the long term.

I really feel prefer it’s actually empowering to assume that once we select constructive ideas, that we are literally enhancing our well being. It’s simply actually cool.

four. Optimism breeds confidence and perseverance.

If you’re optimistic, you react to issues with a way of confidence and excessive private potential. These are issues you realize that you could management and also you be ok with tackling.

One other solution to speak about that is that optimistic individuals consider that adverse occasions are momentary and restricted in scope. They don’t pervade each single facet of your life. If one thing goes mistaken in a single space, optimistic individuals have a tendency to have the ability to include that in a single space and never broaden it to imply that their whole life is incorrect and every little thing is mistaken.

Though we’ve got all had these moments, haven’t we? As a result of I undoubtedly have had the second the place that final shoe drops and out of the blue each single factor in my life is improper. That’s when Dave picks me up off the ground and provides me a hug and sends me out to get my nails finished or decide up a film. I come again and slowly begin to put collectively the items and keep in mind that no, the truth is, that one factor going improper didn’t imply something about the remaining of my life and I can sort of get again on prime of it.

Whenever you’re optimistic, you see the lengthy recreation, you recognize that no matter tough state of affairs is occurring proper now that it’ll finish and that one other tough state of affairs will in all probability come alongside and that that may finish too.

Once we take into consideration what’s going proper in a state of affairs, we’re in a position to be ok with it and that builds confidence and optimist can see that every expertise is a stepping stone in the direction of a subsequent and higher objective. You possibly can reframe with optimism into recognizing how that factor that didn’t go the best way you anticipate may be one thing that really prepares you higher for the subsequent factor that you simply’re going to perform in your life.

Optimism in Craft Workshops 

One private instance about that is in my craft workshops. A number of years in the past, I made a decision I needed to show in-person workshops. I had been educating DIY on-line by means of my weblog for years and I actually needed to get again to some of that human connection.

I used to be optimistic that different individuals would need to come to those workshops. I used to be going to make them enjoyable. They have been going to be cool. I used to be going to have snacks. Who doesn’t need to come to a workshop with snacks? So I received a couple of underneath my belt and collaboration with different outlets. I approached totally different boutiques and issues and labored with them to create workshops. After which I made a decision to host my very personal.

This was the primary time I used to be renting an area, paying for it on my own, and it wasn’t a collaboration for the area. I had a pair individuals enroll, however not sufficient to cowl my prices in any respect, not to mention earn money. Dave and I talked for a short while about whether or not or not I ought to cancel the occasion as a result of the minimal that I wanted to cowl the prices had not signed up and I made a decision as an alternative of specializing in the seats that weren’t crammed, that I needed to give attention to the individuals who had purchased tickets.

How cool was that? That there have been individuals for that had put sufficient confidence in me that they needed to return to my workshop. I needed to make this an thrilling and superb expertise for them. So, I made a decision to host the workshop anyway. I gave some of the opposite tickets away in order that we might fill it up and make it really feel enjoyable. Then it turned this chance for me to ask buddies to return to a workshop and I used to be giving one thing to them and that felt actually thrilling and enjoyable for me. I additionally was creating one other alternative for me to do the factor that I needed to do, which was to host these workshops.

I purchased the snacks and the supplies and we had the most effective time! And that workshop didn’t make any cash. I paid to host that first solo workshop, however it was a tremendous time and it was a completely essential stepping stone to proceed to construct a workshop arm of my enterprise.

I might have tremendous simply felt defeated, however in seeing the great on this state of affairs and the lengthy recreation, I used to be capable of benefit from the expertise. The entire thing seems like a win for my general marketing strategy.

“As an optimist, I try to take good things personally and let the negativity roll off. I try to challenge those thoughts that make me feel like less than or not enough and welcome the thoughts that build my confidence and happiness.”

Once I begin to have a thought “like only four people signed up for my workshop, that means that I’m not very good at teaching.” or  “I don’t have a big enough audience.” or  “The workshop didn’t seem very fun. No one thinks it’s worth it.” None of that are true. These are simply issues I can inform myself if I give attention to what’s a perceived lack.  As an alternative, as an optimist, you possibly can reframe the entire state of affairs to say, “This is amazing that I have for people who have put their confidence in me!” and “This workshop is going to be incredible. How fun that I now have an opportunity to invite other people who might not otherwise have been able to come to participate.” and “This is a great chance for me to continue exercising my skills as a workshop instructor.”

I’ve continued to show workshops for the final 5 years. I at present have workshops arising in Salt Lake Metropolis on December 1st in Chicago on December sixth and in Portland, Oregon on December eighth. I don’t know if there might be seats obtainable when this podcast episode airs in a pair of weeks, but when there are, go test it out.

If you wish to come Salt Lake Metropolis, Chicago, or Portland, you’ll be able to go take a look at the workshops at store.livefreecreative.co, and if there are seats out there, I would like you to make use of the low cost code podcast for $10 off your seat, so in case you’re in salt lake, Chicago or Portland and can be found on any of these days, use the code PODCAST and obtain $10 off of your seat!

Now pay attention, that is you getting fortunate for listening to the podcast in the present day.

5. Optimists are by definition, happier and extra hopeful.

That is the actual benefit of optimism proper right here. Not solely do you progress previous failure or change, acknowledge alternatives, enhance your assist, construct your confidence, but in addition being optimistic signifies that you are feeling happier and extra hopeful about your life.

We will all agree it’s far more enjoyable to hang around with somebody who just isn’t a downer, proper? There could also be some strategic advantages to pessimism in some conditions, however fixed complaining or recognizing issues that hassle you, that you would be able to’t management is a complete bummer.

The reality is everyone knows that life isn’t all the time going to be sunshine and rainbows and there are advantages to wanting ahead to the rainbow after the storm that you simply’re presently experiencing. Within the meantime, within the center of the storms, we will hunker down and sip a cup of scorching cocoa and take heed to the rain poured down outdoors and understand that that storm is watering the crops and build up the water provide for the longer term. The rainbow is simply across the nook.

How To Turn into Extra Optimistic

  1. Reframe for the constructive. No matter’s occurring in your life, retell the story in a method that it’s a good factor that’s occurring to you. That’s sort of a enjoyable problem, just a little recreation you’ll be able to play.
  2. Encompass your self with constructive influences and attempt to keep away from unfavourable individuals. People who find themselves complaining on Instagram, undoubtedly people who find themselves ranting on fb. Discover the individuals who raise you up, make you are feeling impressed, search for the great of their lives, and you can see that you simply naturally begin to emulate these behaviors.
  3. Write in a gratitude journal. I can’t over emphasize the facility of gratitude because it pertains to optimism.
  4. Let go of the issues which you can’t management
  5. Acknowledge the destructive after which shortly begin to consider options. The best way you can transfer previous these to enhance your life, to be the best way that you really want it to be.

Conclusion

So what do you assume? Are you satisfied? Do you are feeling such as you’re able to embrace the thought of enhancing your optimism? I need to share the 5 benefits another time. We will actually drive it house:

1. Optimism helps us see failure or change as alternatives for a brand new begin.

2. Optimism opens us as much as new prospects.

three. Optimism improves our bodily and psychological well being.

four. Optimism breeds confidence and perseverance.

5. Optimists are by definition, happier and extra hopeful.

I’ve talked about that my function on this podcast helps you are feeling impressed to stay a extra artistic, adventurous, and intentional way of life. I consider that being optimistic will allow you to with all of these issues. It can open you as much as creativity, provide the confidence that you must embark on new adventures and provide help to be intentional concerning the experiences that you simply select and the best way that you simply select to consider them.

Thanks a lot for being right here immediately. I hope that you’ve liked the present. You already know, I’ve stated it earlier than and I’ll say it once more. The perfect factor you are able to do to help the podcast proper now’s to share it with everybody that you recognize. Inform your mates, put a publish on fb, screenshot it as you’re listening, and share it in your instagram tales. In case you have an e-mail publication, ship it out in your publication, get up in your rooftop and shout it out.

I so recognize you amplifying my voice on this method and serving to me attain extra individuals with these messages that I hope will uplift and encourage. The world might use just a little bit extra of that proper now, I feel, and I recognize you supporting me in that endeavor. I hope you have got a very fantastic week. Search for all of the sunshine and rainbows scattered all through your day, and I’ll speak to you subsequent week. So long.

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